The Why of a Friend
Friendships come and friendships go.
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
When you figure out which it is, you will know what to do.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need
You have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you
Through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid
You physically, emotionally, or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason
You need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at
an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the
Relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up or act out, forcing you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled:
their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is
now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn
has come to share, to grow, or to learn. They may bring you an
experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something
you have never known, or help you do something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it! It is real!
But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships occur to teach you lifetime lessons: those things
you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. The
lessons are not always easy. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the
person (anyway), and put what you have learned to use in all the other
relationships and areas of your life.
Don’t waste time and emotional energy mourning the end of a friendship
and the loss of a friend.
Instead, consider why that person came into your life.
Appreciate what you received from the friendship,
and value the experience (and the person) for that.
Your life has been made richer.
That is enough to know.
It is said that love is blind
friendship is clairvoyant.
Be grateful for the friends you once had,
And the friends you have now.
Friends are like flowers, beautiful flowers . . . .
Friends are like flowers in the garden of life.